I think that life gives you opportunities, windows into other people’s minds. I enjoy Window Shopping a great deal.

I love my vanilla life stuff equally to my kink life stuff, as too much of anything becomes dull after a while.

I think that above all, Submissives should be proactive, and think about The Dominant’s needs over their own. They should not need to be told what to do all the time. I’m not one for controlling or humiliating reactive Slaves.

I hate being told “I enjoy whatever you want to do Mistress”, because, that is quite frankly not helpful in getting us both where we need to be.

I enjoy a great deal of things, BDSM wise, I recognise that all people have things they are better and worse at, and so, I like to use the correct “toy” for the job at hand.

If a Submissive has not thought about how they best offer their service, I’m usually not happy with that Submissive’s services. The service offered by such Submissives is usually muddled, and very unclear in purpose. How can I hope to understand you, if there has been no effort made into understanding yourself before you make your offer?

Going on from that, I therefore actively encourage suggestions as to how I might get the best from you, which some may see as “Topping from the Bottom”. Honestly? I don’t have the want to unproductively play hit and miss with your psyche. This just wastes both of our time.

Road signs for anyone’s headspace are always useful, and as I am sure you are aware, if you have submitted your power to Me, whether I choose to use the directions you provide or not is My choice, not yours. There will be times when I actively choose another path, I enjoy keeping people on their toes (Sometimes literally!)

I most enjoy being adored (Who doesn’t?!). Adoration takes many forms: A good foot massage, the offer of a neck rub, a small gift, extravagant and flamboyant gestures, being thoughtfully enough to open a door for me if I have my hands full, or even a just cuddle and a kind word when I’m blue. All these things are good things.

I thrive on feedback. If you are not giving me that, smiles and attentiveness when serving or moans, squirms, wriggles, screams and even tears when I’m tormenting, I’m just not enjoying you.

I adore tormenting someone so much that they scream for Me. Unashamed screaming is a good sound. It makes Me giggle…

It is well known that I switch, I make no secret of the fact. Endorphins are wonderful, and I think that the subbies keeping them all to themselves is far too selfish!

“ickle nikki” can be rather masochistic, and apparently very bratty at times.

I feel that my switchiness give me balance, and enables me to understand subspace far better. I’m a craftsman for creating subspace in the Submissives I play with.

I give my Submission in the same way that I approach my Dominance, so I give as good as I get in the feedback department.

I’m very picky about sexual partners. After all, sex is fantastic, and should happen as often as possible but I feel it is better with emotional connection. After all, sex with someone you “know” is normally far far better than just rutting.

Humans are pack animals, we have “Social circles”, so I feel that this “reliance on the group” should both logically and naturally extend to the sexual realm as well as the social.

So, I’m a Polyamorus Pansexual Switch – why settle for anything less?

I do so love the thrill of the chase, and being able to act upon the possibility of following “that certain spark” if it presents itself to me is very appealing.

So, Although at this time I’m not immediately open for a Primary relationship, I’m very open to forming lasting Secondary partnerships as well as “friends with benefits” scenarios.

I’ve lived repressing the poly part of me and it hurt lots…

I demand 100% Honesty. “Being faithful” comes from the head and the heart. It isn’t about what you do with your Genitalia.

I don’t believe that anyone has the capacity to be another person’s “100%”. If you are hitting 80% compatibility and up, you are doing well in my opinion.

I’m grown up enough to admit that I’m a cynic, but fluffy enough to have it not matter.

I just don’t “do” sissy play. I have no issue with Transvestism, but it just doesn’t float my boat. I’m not a girlie-girl myself, I don’t enjoy messing about with Make-up & Clothes (although, I do love looking fantastic!), and it takes me max 20 minutes to get ready to go out anywhere…

I like my men being men, my girls being girls, and my wonderful freaks being freakish. 🙂